Another typical night out dancing: as the Beach Boys would happily sing, it’s “two girls for every guy.” As a girl, you don’t think it’s such a good thing… You’re not necessarily the competitive type, and you’re definitely not going to club anyone’s knees to improve your odds. So how do you improve your chances of getting asked without ruining your nice girl reputation? Here are some successful strategies for getting others to ask you for a dance:
- Smile. You don’t have to wear a cheesy grin from ear to ear, but at least make your face look like you’re happy to be there.
- Stand instead of sit. Standing with good posture, on the edge of the dance floor, is a great place to show you want to be out there. If you can look like you just finished a great dance it works like a charm.
- Don’t fold your arms in front of you. This is universal body language for “don’t talk to me.”
- Invest in good dance shoes. If you’re shoes look like they are supposed to be out there on the floor, they will probably help get you there. The rest of your outfit should also be nice.
- Look around the room. Make eye contact with those you think you might want to dance with. You can even add a little extra smile or a nod when your eyes connect.
- Practice good dancer hygiene.
- Be social. Go to the dance with dancers. Ask them to introduce you to others you should dance with. Be friendly and get to know the people around you. When people know you, they’re much more likely to ask you for a dance.
- Get good at dancing. Take the time to practice and learn. Good dancers are always in high demand.
- Ask others. If people know you want to dance with them, they will want to dance with you, too.
- Be fun to dance with. If someone sees you on the floor having a good time, they will want to share that good time with you.
What other strategies have you used successfully?
*Photo by Eric McGregor
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6 responses so far ↓
1 kait // Oct 25, 2007 at 8:41 am
dance by yourself!! it feels really odd at first, and it’s a big challenge to have the confidence to get out there even if there’s not a charleston circle pre-existing, but once you do… if you can keep yourself amused, there’s less chance of hitting the funk where being unhappy about not getting asked to dance leads to being even less likely to be asked. bonuses, a lot of times people come to join you, and working on solo dancing helps musicality and body awareness for partner dancing!
2 Amberlynn // Oct 25, 2007 at 8:49 am
Thanks kait. You’re absolutely right!
4 ajayi // Oct 31, 2007 at 8:57 am
Nice post. It is so important, yet so underrated. Smiling, standing, and even dancing in place is one of the things that make me want to go right up to that girl and ask her to dance.
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